Have you reached your full potential?

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How often do you ponder on any new experiences that we would like to create in your life? And similarly how easy for you is to stop doing and engaging in things that make you feel bored and fed-up?

The clues that can help us reveal our true potential are our secret  hopes and dreams.

Our minds are active in protecting us from pain of disappointment and  will always err on the side of caution, sticking to what it knows and has already experienced, however mediocre that is.   “You’re too old, too young, (fill in the blank) to do that!”, “you haven’t got the right skills, qualifications blah blah blah”. Maybe you recognise this in yourself.
The danger is that this protective mechanism can turn into cynicism  if too many dreams are broken, which could ultimately take away the joy of life, and in extreme cases the will to live. One has to question the idea of depression, because with this understanding, it’s not an ‘illness’ that befalls us but rather a net-effect of this problem.

My solution to this is an exercise that I take my clients through, which is a simple one:

Imagine what you would be ideally doing first in your personal and then in your professional life in 3 years time? Immerse yourself in that imagination, however crazy in may seem, see it , feel it , maybe even taste it.

By creating a new reality in your minds eye, you open your heart to a new possibility. This then temporally shifts you out of your conditioned mind, with all this pre-programmed, automated responses that would normally shut that dream down. Looking at this potential – YOUR POTENTIAL LIFE – will uncover and  reveal all the social conditioning and emotional charges that are blocking that potential. By doing this exercise, even on your own, you will see those belief systems in the cold light of day and become more conscious of those ridiculous and redundant reasons why ‘you can’t live that life’. You will be able to exam them through a more truthful lens that opening your heart can bring to you.

Homeopathic remedies, if matched to these conditional beliefs will eliminate these energetic mental, emotional and even physical blocks (For example you will feel more energised when planning  what you want to do) to your true potential. To give some examples :

  • Shale, a mineral composite compromising of layers of shells represents doing things the way we’ve always done things – holding onto traditions that we were thought up by people who are now dead (think of shell representing security for the defenceless creature inside and the layers of shells once occupied by now deceased creatures), and therefore is usually an outmoded way, not relevant to the desires and potential that people have today.
  • Human ovary – which as an egg just simply mean human potential. This remedy tackles the block to the lack of recognition or engagement with your true potential and useful for people whose dreams were blocked when they were young adults or teenagers – they we not allowed to explore their own ideas or dreams, and were maybe funnelled into something that met the expectations of the adults around them.
  • Organophosphate represents artificially hot housing a young person to become something that is not authentic. When this person has to go out in the world without the artificial support, if they have not sufficiently connected with their own inner convictions and understandings will wilt like a hot house flower in the temperate climate. There has been some social commentary about the Millennial generation now entering the workplace and seeking the reassurance that they got from their families as their inner resilience,  that comes from having to learn things in the face of personal challenges, is lacking.
  • Strychnine represents believing that you are fated to have a limited life – we see this often in society in the form of ‘poverty consciousness’ as an example that pervades a family or society – it is often cited that lottery winners can squander the money quickly if they are in that mind-set.

I hope that I have offered a new perspective that is challenging, but also liberating. The message that I like to convey, is that we should not be seeking to fix or improve ourselves because:

Our full-potential, and ability to attain it, is already in-built into our systems.

Instead, we have to identify and liberate ourselves from those blocks to that true potential to live the life of our dreams…

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The simplest way of cleansing the body – drink lots of distilled water.

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My very wise teachers Sanjay and Jogesh Sehgal use to say: “there’s only one thing that will ever kill you, and that is toxins.” This concept is not something that is talked about in mainstream medicine and it is possibly still regarded as a wishy-washy idea from the alternative medical field. I want to be specific about what we are talking about: Toxins are particles in our body that should not be there and like dust in a machine, they slow down its functioning. What happens is that like we see with plaque on teeth, if we don’t clean them, we get tartar, which is a calcification of that dirt,  in order to protect the body of these free-radicals that will degrade the cells in the body, disabling them to renew themselves (all organs via cell-renewal can renew themselves completely over a surprisingly short time when the body is fully connected with the vital force). This is because many of the protective measures that the body had, it is keeping the toxins away from the vital organs, and more in the peripheral non-essential parts of our body. Thus as we get older, a lot of chronic and degenerative symptoms and degradations of the body stem from this simple phenomenon. Cataracts, arthritis, gall-, kidney-, and liver-stones, osteoarthritis, calcification of the pituitary gland (the master gland ) inhibiting the complex circulation of hormones, which leads to the true reason ageing and some of the many health problems that can occur. Similarly on a cellular level, as the cells gets ‘clogged up’ with foreign material that it cannot dispose of, the number of outlets increase at the cost of the inlets, meaning that this compensatory action to get rid of the stuff is reducing the ability to receive more nutrition. This way the cells are gradually starved of oxygen and nutrients. With this in mind, we can also see why de-natured or extracted foods – even if they are ‘healthy supplements’ are things that the body doesn’t know what to do with, ie isn’t equipped to breakdown in a form  to allow it to leave the body, and has to be therefore stored in the form of fat, or calcification, to keep it away from the vital organs.

I recently become aware of a little known simple yet extremely curative health regime. It has been shrouded by confusion and misunderstanding so much so that we have been led to avoid something that is obviously beneficial and that is drinking the purest form of water, which is distilled water.

Distilled water –  is water from the faucet that has been vaporised, making the molecules rise up, leaving all soluble and in-soluble contaminants behind and returning into liquid form, as pure H2O. The therapeutic benefits of this product lie in the fact that on a molecular level  the ions are all negatively charged, and therefore have the ability to magnetize any positively charge ions out of the body. All toxins or free-radicals are positively charged so this is the most effective way of cleansing the body of those impediments to health on the most basic level.

In practice, people notice after consistently drinking at least 2 litres of distilled water a day and using it for most of their dietary needs, an increase in elimination through the digestive tract. The result is a gradual feeling of lightness and higher levels of energy not to mention the gradual decrease or reversal of many chronic conditions associated with calcification such improved digestion, absorption of nutrients; improved eye-sight – short and long sightedness as well as cataracts; reduced excess weight; improved skin conditions; normalised blood pressure to mention a few.

*** Disclaimer – this information is not a substitute for medical attention ***

So the controversy that surrounds it: we have always been told by official channels that distilled water will leach out the minerals of your body, because it lacks minerals. This is true, but what it is referring to is the beneficial detoxification process that I describe. We have to clarify what this confusing message and why we need not fear it: the minerals they are talking about are inorganic minerals that dirt and rocks are made of. these are however not the building blocks of our body – what we need and will retain whilst drinking this water,  thus reducing the inhibited uptake of minerals are organic minerals, found in fresh fruit and vegetables. It is suggested however to add a pinch of Himalayan or sea salt to the carafe of distilled water to add some trace elements. Andrew Norton Webber an advocate for distilled water has researched this matter extensively and is a further reference.

It is easy to purchase counter-top distillers online and cost between 100-200 GBP. Just ensure that the they are made of stainless steel and the collecting vessel is made of glass.

Please do comment below any effects or benefits you notice: this will help to build up a picture to help and inspire others.

 

 

Is your blood too acid or too alkaline? It could be the cause of some underlying health problems.

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In my practice I focus on predispositions and tendencies toward ill health, which are the underlying problems waiting to happen. So when things get challenging in your life and you start to feel physically or emotionally bad – instead of  firefighting or using sticking plasters, intelligently improve your constitution in order to future-proof your long-term outlook.

In homeopathy, as with many other holistic therapies, we see the vital energy as the primary component to healing. What that means in practice is that we have to see other mind/emotions and body as a electro-magnetic field. And if electro-magnetic field is distorted in some way so that it hinders the flow of this vital energy. Vital Energy is really photonic (light) in nature and is therefore a neutral energy, as opposed to the pushing energy of electricity and the pulling energy of magnetism. So one can argue that in order to allow the photonic energy to have full access to our bio-energetic sphere in order to restore it and enable the optimal functioning, we have to balance or equalise that electro magnetism in our energy field. The trick is to understand the nature of the distortion in each individual and one good way is looking at the PH levels of the blood. Why? because PH is determined by the number of positively or negatively charged ions in the solution and at the risk of being too ‘sciencey’, because I want this information to remain crystal clear, alkaline solutions have too many positively charged hydrogen ions and acidity too many negatively charged oxygen ions – here we have the potential for distortion of the electromagnetic field if the PH is not in neutral – negative charges being the magnetic pull that occurs in acids and  positive charges being the electric push. The PH of blood should ideally be 7.4 to be neutral for it’s purpose, but any increase to 7.45 (or higher causing alkalosis) is already too alkaline. Similarly a decrease to 7.35 (or lower to cause acidosis) will be too acidic. But although the distortion may seem subtle, enabling the body to continue functioning, it can cause some profound long-term degradation of health.

The role blood plays in our physiology is to circulate Oxygen around the body – Oxygen,  is an embodiment of our life-force (prana as it is called in Eastern philosophies) and the effectiveness of this endeavour  will depend on how distorted the electro-magnetic field, as represented in this case by the PH level of the blood.

So how does this display itself in practice? What can we do at home, TODAY, to start neutralising our body in order for our life force to flow less impeded?

If you have any or a combination of the following symptoms, then your blood can tend to be TOO ACIDIC:

  • Negative emotions: predominate with depression, grief and sadness
  • Family or personal history includes: cancer, heart dis-ease
  • Physical tendencies include: cysts, hormonal imbalance
  • Mental tendencies include: Addiction, co-dependancy, bi-polar mood swings

We can start to see that due to the predominance of negative Oxygen ions, there seems to be a perceived ‘lack’ that needs to be filled, within the psyche. Oxygen, in my homeopathic system, represents the void, or nothingness, so there is a need to fill that void. Here the symptoms are about unhealthy attachments or retention of things that should be eliminated from the body. The skew is too much assimilation and not enough elimination.

To start neutralising the ACID, the solution that you can put in place today is to:

  • Completely cut out red and processed meat.
  • Increase your fresh fruit and vegetable intake to be 75% of your diet, and of that, a third to be consumed raw.

Conversely, here are some of the many symptoms you could have if  your blood tends to be TOO ALKALINE:

  • Negative emotions predominate with anger, anxiety or fear
  • Family or personal history includes: autoimmune diseases, digestion problems, allergies or skin problems.
  • Physical tendencies include: skin problems,  allergies, chronic inflammatory problems, calcification problems such as gall stones, candida
  • Mental tendencies include: Attention deficit, OCD, stress, autism

We can see how the predominance of positively charged hydrogen atoms are influencing the psyche, whereby, there is a feeling that there is too much and you need to get away from everything or get rid of things. Hydrogen, as an element in homeopathy, represents detachment so wants to disconnect to create more emptiness in it’s life. So the body and mind is either in ‘fight or flight’ mode. The skew therefore is too much elimination and not enough assimilation, for example lack of mental assimilation in the mind tendencies and digestive assimilation in the digestion problems.

To start neutralising the ALKALINE, the solution that you can put in place today is to:

  • Drink half a teaspoon of cider vinegar twice a day diluted in either hot or cold water. it is pure asetic acid and in another blog I will explain why this is a life-giver in the truest form.
  • Drink distilled water ideally exclusively from all other waters. Pure H2O, which contain only negatively charged ions will reach all areas of the body and magnetize the positively charged toxins and pull them out of the body.

If you try my advice, and see how things change for you, please comment below.

 

 

Running on Empty: Adrenal exhaustion and chronic fatigue

A mindfulness teacher recently asked me about this widely spread malaise in our hectic world. There are many signs and symptoms, listed below, that I see in my clinic that indicate the problem, but don’t get too hung up about them: In the holistic world, if you have any it doesn’t mean your body is faulty, they act as reminders that we have not aligned ourselves correctly towards life. Once this is remedied, your can run on all cylinders again:

To get an understanding of why we have these symptoms, we need to know that the adrenal glands are part of our fight and flight mechanism, as well as influencing our metabolism. Adrenalin should only be used, when there are extraneous problems in our life, to give a boost when we need to run away from the tiger. The problem occurs when this acute become a chronic. ie it’s relied upon for day-to-day life. This then puts the body into permanent survival mode, which can result in any number of the following symptoms.

MENTAL/EMOTIONAL

  • Non-linear thinking, that feel like popping corn in your brain, giving rise to unfounded anxious thoughts
  • Negative, self-reproachful thoughts, because the mind is constantly trying to find reasons why “things aren’t working out”
  • Similarly giving rise to uncharacteristic aggressive, impatient or defensive reactions
  • Or, a defeated, low feeling

PHYSICAL

  • Weight gain around the stomach, survival mode trying to protect the vital organs with fat
  • Weight loss thighs and bottom, depleted collagen in the skin, making it slack,  because the metabolism  is then burning up proteins instead of fats.
  • Sudden sugar/carb/stimulant cravings.
  • Sleeplessness: Frequent waking in the night,  lack of adequate deep sleep.
  • Frequent urination at night (the adrenals sit on top of the kidneys).
  • High cholesterol in blood
  • Inadequate calcium assimilation, depleting bones and teeth instead laying calcium on top of them leading to tartar on teeth, tooth decay, osteoarthritis, and osteoporosis. (there is a link between the metabolic systems of adrenals, para-thyroid and thyroid glands)
  • Autoimmune conditions due to an over active fight of flight mechanism
  • Chronic fatigue.

The overall effect is DEPLETION of basic resources. In other words, too much going out of the system, not enough coming into the system to replenish it.

The Solution is to balance out how you replenish your system to match your output: realise your vital force

When we are running on empty, we are by definition, using up resources that we don’t really have in the first place. In holistic medicine, healing happens through re balancing our functionality. And the way I suggest is through our perception, because Perception is Everything. First of all, we need to understand why we get out of balance: in the western world we tend to do a lot of ‘Doing’ rather than Being (one could argue the opposites true in the eastern world). Doing is active, Being is passive. So when something seems to be a problem, whatever the problem is, we are fundamentally conditioned to ‘do’ something about it. An example would be, if we feel we do not have something that we need, we go and ‘get’ it – which is an action.

Now here is my secret behind resolving this issue: we have to learn to receive:

by standing still in our lives and noticing that our vital energy is already supporting us through our lives. It’s the perception of this that changes our experience. What I notice is that when I do it I feel a physical tingling in my body, starting with the hands and feet, traveling towards the centre. I automatically start to feel grateful because I realise that so much benevolent energy is healing and nurturing me – this is what we call the vital force. I then start to feel already whole and complete inside, where poverty is no longer my experience. From this inner feeling place, we can look out on the world and start to feel more secure and ‘at home’, merely because now we can see the complete picture. From this secure and sustainable place, we know we an endless supply of energy. What we can then discover is that because this is the case, we can choose the kind of activities and goals we wish to do, because we no longer have to do things to get things – which is all the treadmill stuff that makes our heart sink. Instead, we can do the stuff that makes us feel excited and alive – and guess what? We end up only doing the things that energizes us, so it’s a win-win scenario.

In this way we start to feel whole and  complete, but we haven’t done a thing, we’ve just shifted perception. And our bodies, that reflect our inner feeling state will follow suit. It no longer feels depleted, but rather more alive and at the same time replete. Our bodies ultimately therefore reflect how we are seeing life – and the good news is that you can change that!

One condition that is a good example of an acute version of this problem is post-natal depression. This condition is due to a combination of two factors: exhaustion from the marathon of giving birth and a system ‘spiked’ with oestrogen which affects the adrenals and thyroid in particular (which happens in pregnancy). So, again anti-depressant drugs will not address the underlying problem of this situation, as this is a physical not psychological cause. For immediate action I would always recommend strict bed-rest and possibly a homeopathic remedy most indicated in the symptoms, one of which being considered would be folliculinum to counteract the estrogen levels. This remedy is very good for people who give too much, against their will, but according to others needs, thereby deputing themselves a) because they are doing actions that don’t inspire them and b) they stop receiving, because they are always ‘the givers’ and feel guilty or unworthy to receive.

To illustrate my point of intention: Everyone knows a ‘needy’ friend, colleague or acquaintance, who you try to avoid, because they are always draining. It’s not that you begrudge giving them your time or help, it’s that they are sucking it out of you, because they feel ‘in need’, but have to get it rather than receiving it from you.  When another friend in need comes along, but only receives what you have to offer, you feel your giving to them is very energising to you, because the energy dynamic is correct. So it not the lack or the doing that is the problem, but the intention behind the giving and taking.

When we live a life of balance, we perform actions when we are inspired and when at rest, receive the energy that is already prevalent. This way, whatever you do in life will never deplete you. My analysis of the situation is likening it to putting a battery into an appliance the wrong way round, wherebv the poles are reversed. The energy is flowing in the wrong direction and therefore our appliance (lives/bodies) do not work properly, until we’ve shifted perspective. This is how we become conscious creators: we receive the inspiration that comes from inside of us and then act perform the action that has been inspired out of joy, which is supported by our benevolent vital Force that is unfailingly there for us no matter what!

Transitioning from the Dead Zone to the Live Zone

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Life is like a flowing river: ever changing, ever new, ever present but never them same.  This is what vitality is –  the unhindered flow of energy that flows through us, giving us an ever-present, ever changing unique experience. When we are fully engaged with our vitality and therefore life, we feel fresh, light, alive, buoyant, pleasantly expectant, trusting, spontaneous, energised, not a care in the world, because nothing, literally, matters in the grand scheme of things.

Do you feel like this now? Yes? Great! No? Then let’s find out why.

Something that has become very clear to me in my practice is that that fundamentally we become dis-eased when there is a stuckness in that flow of life. Just like a river, if that flow is blocked, there is stagnancy, decay and pollution – in physical terms, our bodies accumulate toxins, which degrade cells and are, from the holistic point of view, at the root of most chronic ailments.

What is the reason? Again, likening it to a river, we either hold onto the sides of the bank and let the current of life batter us, or dam up the river so we end up not moving at all, thereby stagnating.

So those of us who cling onto the tried and tested for fear of the new, (the banks of the river) end up trying to second-guess the future, feeling exhausted (adrenal fatigue is common) always fearing what is round the next corner. The main feeling that results in this is anxiety.

Those of us who dam up the river and remain stagnant, conversely, hold onto the past, letting that define them instead of the ever – present moment. The main feeling is depression and sadness.

What we should be doing is just throwing ourselves into the unhindered flow, sothat we only ever define what we are by what is currently (no pun) is experienced. Resultant feeling? You define yourself as pure innocence, fresh alive and new, nothing can define you, because it feels that you are life itself. Athletes master this and call it being in the zone, to achieve maximum potential in their performance. People spend decades in meditation to achieve this state, but I believe it is available to you right now – you’ve just got to see it!

So how can you become aware of your own patterning to achieve this vital state, thus ensuring pristine health and well-being? By looking at the conditions you put on life for it to be ok for you:  “I can’t be happy until I’ve got a boyfriend”

“I can’t change my day-job until I’m financially secure”.

“I can’t improve my health until I have enough money”.

“I can’t take a sabbatical until I’ve got pregnant”.

“I can’t go on holiday until I have someone to go with me”.

“I can’t buy new clothes and look fab until I’ve lost weight”.

A friend once reminisced that she was in a job she hated, but decided not to give it up, until she got pregnant, in order to receive maternity leave for cash benefit. She did not, however get pregnant over the next year, so, being very fed up at this point, she listened to this and gave up her job anyway. Within a week she got pregnant! Conceiving new life in particular is greatly hindered by thinking in a conditional way and is really the product of love and passion, beyond the rational mind. Given the large numbers of infertile couples, we can see it is a common malaise that could be rectified by this new way of understanding how life works.

An exercise to re-calibrate yourself to transition from the dead zone to the Live Zone.

Just ask yourself: “If money, time, circumstances, and other people’s opinions were irrelevant, what would you be doing right now? In a week’s time? in a month, in a year and in 10 years? Spend as much time daydreaming as you can, and notice how you feel physically. Your body does not know the difference between the pictures in your head and the “reality” outside it. If it makes you feel better then you have already found your own solution.

Now ask yourself “How am I acting, what am I believing on a regular basis that is stopping me from going for that life?” Leave a space in your mind, for the answer to emerge in you.

This is what my work is all about, and that’s why my strap line is Homeopathy for Vitality – not homeopathy to get rid of symptoms, because hopefully you now know that that is not really the issue. Symptoms can be the result of the flow of life, as really they the body re-balancing itself. It’s the present, predominating and persisting symptoms that indicate the block to vitality resulting in the dead-zone. This is what I treat in the individual, because it is the the barriers to that have to be addressed in order to let the flow of life commence within you and through you.

As a final note, I’m not expounding that we live in a totally unbounded way as this would be too alien and disorientating given how our society currently is structured – for example saving for a rainy day. For me, when this thinking does become relevant is when illness is telling you that the constrictions to life are no longer serving you. This is what is then upper most in us to be healed.

So what are you awaiting for? Dive in!

Where to find the solution to your health problems

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Many people who have chronic health conditions have spent time and money looking everywhere for the elusive right diet, right pill, regime, right exercise which can help for a while, but…

to find a permanent source of well-being, you have to look in the least expected place:

YOU are the source of your own HEALING POWERS, in the same way,

YOU are the source of your own HAPPINESS

YOU are the source of your own SECURITY

YOU are the source of your own CREATIVITY and therefore ABUNDANCE

YOU are the source of your AUTHORITY and VALIDATION

YOU are the source of  LOVE and COMPASSION for yourself.

YOU are the source of your own WISDOM and INTELLIGENCE

Because YOU are the source of your own vital energy, it is your life force.

This is really good news, because your fundamental well-being is really not dependant on external factors after all and you realise that you can be really well, happy and secure  regardless of your external circumstances and what is available to you.

The ONLY question remains is: what is disconnecting you from your own source of energy and thereby transforming your experience? What are you inadvertently doing that is taking you away from what will make you WHOLE and COMPLETE?

Homeopathy understands this mechanism, and so it’s only purpose, in times when the client is chronically unwell, is to endeavour to re-connect you with you own innate healing powers. We do this by working out how the person is inadvertently disconnecting themselves usually due to the conditioning, life situations and genetic makeup. We then find a remedy that matches this patterning or tendency in order heal it and thereby enabling the reconnection with your Vital Energy to occur. The net result is not only the physical problems healing, but that you generally feel better in yourself.

Here are some typical blocks to self-connection:

When you feel emotional or physically bad, what thoughts do you have?

What are you saying to yourself? Are you criticising the way you are? Judgement is a form of self-rejection, which disconnects you with yourself.

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What do you think needs doing that is coming ahead of your current needs and desires? When we put goals before ourselves, we disconnect from ourselves.

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What trouble are other people causing for you? This is a sign that you’ve inadvertently given others authority over you. Be your own point of reference and authority and thereby you reconnect with yourself.

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What do you believe you haven’t got to be ok? We can compromise ourselves in the pursuit of things we think we lack, such as money, friendship, love.

When we start to become aware of how we are compromising ourselves, due to the belief that the outside world is more important than we are, we have a choice:

“Do I want to play the victim or do I want my power back?”

If you want your power – which is your life force – back then YOU have to the most important thing in your life. In order to do this we have to listen inwards not outwards as our first priority.

CLUES that will let you know whether you are connecting with yourself and thereby your life-force:

When you are thinking or doing something that makes your heart sink –  this is your natural alarm signal that you are disconnecting from your life force – your body always tells the truth.

When you are connected, you feel either passionate, ‘in the moment’, excited, interested, loving, peaceful – these are the results and not cause of being connected to your life force – it is therefore your natural state.

How it works in practice:

A great example of this, with a timely reminder that Apple was recently proclaimed the most profitable company in the world due to its most desirable products. The late founder and visionary behind Apple, Steve Jobs, who was known for his counter-culture background  interestingly spent a year in India in his youth. India is the mecca for spiritual seekers, whereby it is encouraged to look within in mediation, and notice dispassionately what our thoughts are up to and what we would normally be compelled to act upon. Once these thoughts (which are only thoughts, with no actual substance) are seen through, our ‘true nature’ which precedes those thoughts is seen. And that is the immense power, wisdom and love that we really ‘are’. So, Steve Jobs is one of many examples of how each of us could see beyond current constrained thinking, by thus tapping into his own creativity – which is one of the many functions of our vital energy which develops bigger and better ideas.

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If you would like a consultation with me, either on Skype or in person in Surrey, UK, please contact me at meikelawrence@hotmail.co.uk, or visit my website at http://www.HomeopathyForVitality.co.uk

Meike Lawrence

Psychological Tips and Guidelines to help remedy hair thinning or Alopecia

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Hair thinning and alopecia can be very stressful for the sufferer as it can make them feel knock their self-confidence and make them feel very insecure. Unfortunately, whilst the sufferer is struggling with this anxiety, this, as a form of stress perpetuates the hair loss physically as it is an auto-immune condition. This means that the immune system is activated (because stress hormones messages are telling it that there is danger) and working against the body. This in effect puts you in a ‘double-bind’.

I take a holistic approach to all health problems, whereby the mind and body are two sides of the same coin. So my approach is to reveal what is behind the physical symptoms and how to resolve the problem from that underlying state.

As I mentioned in my previous article on Alopecia, issues about hair loss revolve around the ego – your personal identity – who you are in the world. Hair is your crowning glory and in society it is used as an enhancement to our identity – in the film The Iron Lady part of Margret Thatcher’s image revamp was to get rid of the hat, bouffant the hair to “make it look important” which was one of the best ways of getting the ‘unheard’ achieved – getting the first woman prime minister elected.

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The issues and solutions I outline below are based on my own personal as well as professional experience of how this problem comes about and how to rectify the mind-set.

Paradoxically, I have a daughter, now grown up, who is a great role-model for anyone with this issue. She is a ‘typical Leo’, with a long mane of blond hair and her constitutional remedy is Aurum (gold), whose personality type wants to shine. When out of balance, can fly off the handle at the slightest contradiction because they take things personally (their egos get bruised), but when in balance enjoy bringing out the best in themselves, so that they can shine. Although quiet she makes an entrance when entering a room. As a school-child and the youngest in the class, she would give withering looks to anybody who deigned to make a negative comment about her. I imagined potential bullies scuttle off with a whimper as a result. (I did offer hers services to some of her less confident friends to practice That Look). She has always kept her counsel when it comes to her own life decisions, but she definitely knows what she wants and focusses in getting just that. Outside that scope she endeavours to have fun and relax according to her mood and inclination.

So why would anyone want to give up their own personal identity? Surely, life must be more fun and you get more what you want in life if you orientate your life according to who and what you are. In other words, your life revolves around you. Just like the aurum character, you are the shining sun around which the planets in your life revolve around -how great is that?
Like all ailments, I believe the somewhere along the line has been a disconnection from an aspect of yourself, which in this case I believe to be the insecure, vulnerable part of yourself. You therefore internalise your insecurity. This, as Carl Jung, puts it becomes your shadow side, which means that you no longer associate with that state in yourself and just think the “everyone else has that problem, not you” – this is projection. I’ll explain why:

In my observations, many hair loss sufferers have been in situations in the past whereby they had to forgo receiving security whilst still feeling vulnerable on their own. If there were problems of parents not always being emotionally there for the child  or being taken to various relative to be looked after, moving house frequently, parents divorcing, after could be one of many examples of how this would come about. In essence the child, had to create a survival strategy, which goes along the lines of: “Better not rock the boat, as things seem to be chaotic at the moment and just pretend that I don’t need that security I will find another way of not feeling vulnerable. Instead, I will have to forgoe my own identity, which reflects my own preferences, desires and feelings and instead, I will define myself according to other peoples desires, requirements and needs.” You then have to keep you radars out to read what is required of you in order to have a role or identity in life.

What then happens is the the need for security is hidden from view (as I mentioned re the shadow), for both the sufferer and the people around. So the sufferer then sends off the wrong messages, inadvertently, to say they are alright and don’t need anything. So like any trauma, once the feeling is buried, which is insecurity and vulnerability, it is no longer felt, so that the sufferer can manage surviving the situation. Like all buried feelings, however, at some point, when the coast is clear, the child has grown up, those feelings can and have to come out, to be reintegrated consciously into your psyche. Why? Because you have set yourself up to be everything other than being vulnerable as it had been deemed an undesirable state, according to the survival strategy. Where, however would we be if we didn’t allow ourselves to be vulnerable? We wouldn’t experience unconditional love and caring from other people as we’ve set ourselves up to always be The Strong One.

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Think of a small baby – its vulnerability illicits love and attention, without any need for a return from those around, because of its helplessness. This is what your spirit wants to experience for time to time, to feel fully alive. This is why you need to reintegrate your vulnerable side.

What came first, the chicken or the egg?

People with hair loss usually feel very anxious about it. But they think its the hair loss is the cause of the anxiety. This is because the brain is always attributing a cause when something does not feel right. What is really happening is that the anxious feeling is the buried vulnerable state that is already within the person, waiting to come out (that shadow I mentioned). But because we deem the problem to be external, we cannot fully experience unreservedly and thereby integrate the vulnerable state, thus healing ourselves. The paradox is that we are trying to fix the external problem, which perpetuates rather than heals the problem.

As a homeopath, I prescribe remedies that match the feelings of loss of identity, self-sacrifice, internalised insecurity and anxiety about feeling vulnerable, which enables the reintegration of our vulnerable side and thereby stopping the hair loss. It is also possible to help this resolution by trying the following exercise:

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You can now create your own security, become your own sanctuary, to feel completely safe and whole. Make yourself as comfortable as possible and in your mind, visualise the perfect safe space imagining all the things that would make you feel cosseted and look-after. Whilst you are feeling anxious and stressed out welcome yourself into that space and allow yourself to fully feel those feelings, noticing the sensations in your body, the tenseness in your head and all the thoughts that keep popping in your mind. Because you are now looking after yourself, you can now fall into those feelings and sensations and just notice them with curiosity, compassion with no need to work it out or fix it. Just stick with it and you will notice after a while that the feelings start to ease.

This is you allowing yourself to go back to your authentic vulnerable self, and by doing that, you are healing the original problem. Keep doing this every time the anxiety arises and notice that each further episode should decrease in time.  

  Know who you want to be, and what you want out of life – then GO FOR IT.

I have listed further pointers for a for you to re-orientate yourself to fully embracing your own identity. Some may be more relevant than others, just work with the ones that you recognise in yourself.

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Don’t try and keep the peace.

If everyone and every thing is kicking off – don’t try to smooth things over by pacifying them and telling them what they want to here. Instead, connect with your feelings – which indicate your truth and state how you feel about things and what you would like to happen in the situation. Instead, negotiate and communicate through assertiveness – see Whose running Your Life?

Get out of the servitude role 

this is a subtle one. It is always commendable and rewarding to be in a role serving other’s needs, but it’s only if you want to do it for your own pleasure, excitement and curiosity. Don’t let your clients dictate to your the terms and conditions that you operate under otherwise you put your power into the hands of others.

You’re not here to save the world,

be a lightworker or martyr yourself in any other way – you are here to be YOU – and enjoy that experience wholly! It’s no one’s job is to have overall responsibility for things or people – We are here to inspire and admire ourselves and others – that’s how the world becomes a better place!

Be proud of all your achievements and abilities

we tend to overlook the obvious when we’re too busy critising ourselves. Sit on your laurels and preen yourself!

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Be your own authority

you know your own goals, values and interests – this is no-one else’s business, so if anyone tries to tell you – go into collaboration with them (see whose running your life), but if you rebuff or yield to them (two opposite movements) then your giving them authority over you – remember, whatever you resist, persists, so even when you think you are fixing the authority issue by always railing on about that bully in your life, that still keeps you in  the victim role and thereby giving them power over you.

Never be a sanitised version of yourself.

When we look around and try and fit into the prevailing culture, we want to be accepted not rejected. We therefore have a tendency to modify ourselves to fit it – this modification however is based on a law outside yourself and if everyone behaves in the same way we would be clones, making the world a dull/dead place (Have you ever seen the Stepford Wives?)

 Develop your passions and interests

you’re here to enjoy your life (no one else’s). Use whatever’s happening around you at the moment to be your inspiration – choose what you really like, investigate new ideas that catch your eye and immerse and absorb yourself in those activities, doing it for the sheer pleasure alone.

I treated a young father with premature hair loss. He was immensely proud of his young children and derived a lot of pleasure from just observing them. He did, however always feel judged and blocked by his family, when he wanted to go off for a while and pursue some of his own interests. This, again is martyring yourself to the cause.

Fully embody your personality

Yes, you are meant to be that dippy, quirky, funny, unique character. When others are in a bad mood they may complain about it – but that’s their problem and you probably don’t want to be friends with them anyway – there is someone out they who will love you for who you are – and those are the people you are meant to hang out with – But how will they find you if you hide your light under a bushel?

Know that there is a place on earth for you here.

For many of us, the world somehow feels too harsh and wrong at times. It affects our delicate sensibilities and when feeling traumatised, one could start to wonder if there was some kind of mistake and you just have to sit it out until the ‘next life’? With the right vision, when you are in the centre of your own Youniverse (like the word play?) you realise that this life gives you the challenges and opportunities to play things out and experience many things that ultimately help you to get to know yourself better. This is the connection you can reach with yourself – then you realise that you are your own home.

Don’t consult others about your life-choices.

Do you think that your friends and family will approve of your choices from where they are sitting? No, they have their own values, taste and experiences and will only validate your choices if it fits in with their plan. All you need to do is inform them when you are ready to carry out your plans. Disapproval will only be ‘their problem’, not yours. In the extreme case, you may start to know who your real friends are.

Tell other people what they could do to make you happy

You may be pleasantly surprised that your nearest and dearest are waiting to hear how they can make you happy. In our society, things are too skewed towards women being the givers (thus breeding resentment) and men the takers, making them confused and clueless on how they can make their wives happy – which would give them a huge amount of pride and satisfaction.

I had a case of a young mother, who had alopecia, with sleepless babies, whose husband would always go off the week-ends with his mates, leaving her to tend to the family 24/7. Due to her conditioning she found it difficult to issue clear instructions to her partner on what she needed from him. The remedy I gave her helped her to see the value of doing this and she no longer had to suffer in silence.

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Don’t try to be perfect

Fastidiousness is a common trait  in alopecia sufferers. Perfection is an abstract concept rooted in fantasy and has nothing to do with reality. Aim for authentic instead. Let the ancient art of Japanese Wabi-Sabi inspire you whereby imperfections are the feature that is highlighted as the beauty of the piece. Your imperfections are usually your greatest assets which will make you more relatable and attractive to others. That’s how you gain deeper connection and intimacy with others, as well as yourself – which, incidentally is the most important relationship in your life.

Don’t put other people’s welfare before your own.

How can you give the best of yourself to others when you have not ministered to your own needs first? This is a classic problem for many care givers – personal and professional, leading to at best resentment at worst nervous break downs. It never pays, not matter how valid some one else’s need is. Once you have put yourself in the right place, then you are ready to give – which will be of far greater value.

Don’t live through other people’s lives.

It’s very easy to trade our own dreams in for someone else’s. Grown up children and their parents are a classic example. One of the mothers at our school told her husband that she too felt inspired to go on a gap year, now that the kids were planning world tours before university. That’s the way to go!

Always consult with your feelings first

This is checking in with what’s right for you this is your guideline – see Let your heart be your GPS – minister to your needs and wishes – You are your own priority (afterall, no one else will prioritise you, no matter how nice you are to them).

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If you would like a consultation with me either in person or via Skype, then please contact me at

meikelawrence@hotmail.co.uk

or visit my Website WWW.HomeopathyForVitality.co.uk

One simple Principle to ensure Health, Happiness and Success:

Live your life through LOVE, not FEAR.

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20th and 21st century scientists have discovered that everything has a frequency, because everything is made of energy. The fear frequency has a lower vibration to the love frequency and so therefore matter will be affected accordingly.

There are fundamentally two types of emotions that we experience – the negative ones such as anger, hate, anxiety, sadness are bourne out of fear. Conversely, good feelings such as excitement, happiness, bliss are bourne out of love – which enables true acceptance and harmony.

The fear frequency makes us feel disconnected, alone, out of balance, uncooperative, destructive.  This becomes reflected in our bodies, as we develop dis-ease and aging.

The love frequency, conversely, not only enables better health, because the cells in our body act in a more balanced, functional and cooperative way (cells communicate with one another when healthy), but through higher frequency energy we gain clearer, deeper insights into overcoming any problems that we are experiencing.

So here are some examples of how you can orientate yourself to live your life through LOVE, not fear:

  • Whilst driving, you keep within the speed limit because you LOVE to feel safe and cooperative with other drivers, not because you FEAR that the speed cameras will get you.
  • You clean the house, because you LOVE providing a pleasant environment for your family, not because you FEAR what the visitors are going to think.
  • You cook a nutritous meal, because you LOVE to nurture your kids, not because you FEAR that they are going to lack nutrition and therefore fail to grow.
  • You practice reading with your child, because you LOVE seeing them develop and share an activity with them, not because you FEAR that they will be illiterate.
  • You go to work because you LOVE earning money and being productive, not because you FEAR that you may not be able to pay the mortgage if you don’t.
  • You run your business because you LOVE providing solutions to clients, not because you FEAR that you’re lacking income.
  • You meet up with friends, because you LOVE their company, not because, if you don’t, you FEAR that you’ll be lonely.
  • You take the medicine because you LOVE restoring your health, not because you FEAR that you’ll remain sick if you don’t.
  • You LOVE feeling tired because it’s your cue to cut yourself some slack and enjoy a rest, rather than FEARing that you won’t get it all done.
  • You LOVE being ill, because it gives you and others the chance to look after you, rather than FEARing that there is something wrong with you.
  • You LOVE being critised, because someone cares enough about your well-being and wants to be part of your life, rather than FEARing that you can’t defend yourself.

Someone who I feel gives a good example of this principle is Wilko Johnson, the Dr Feelgood musician. In January 2013 he was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and given less than a year to live. But because he chose to LOVE his life more than he FEARED his death, he not only managed to survive it without chemo-therapy, he is positively thriving to this day. It is common for many patients to decline in health after such a diagnosis, because usually fear dominates the person’s reaction. The problem is that in our culture we have elevated science to the status of a substitute god, all seeing, all knowing, which then gives it the power of suggestion.  However, during the time of diagnosis, Wilko described in a radio interview how he walked out of the doctors surgery and everything looked alive and vibrant. He had decided to use this predicament as an opportunity to play music with musicians that he admired and felt he had a good bargaining counter. And that is what he is doing to this day, despite having recently had an operation on the tumour, is healthy enough to continue his LOVE of life.

You can start to see that even the most seemingly negative scenarios can always be loved by you, contrary to some of our inbuilt beliefs. The important point to make here is that in truth you can never change your circumstance – which is what we normally try to do, but fail – See How to Eliminate Stress from your Life. This is because our mind, due to the power of it’s imagination, can lead us to believe that there can be a moment other than this one.

When do you remember to practice this principle? When your heart sinks – this is an indication that you have disconnected with your life-force, because you are living in fear and not in love. See Let Your Heart be Your GPS.

So when we do live through love, we reconnect with our innate healing powers, insights and wisdom and power. This is how I work with my clients: to find out in which areas are difficult to love due to conditioned or limited beliefs. Once it is matched with the remedy, the patient finds a new positive perspective, however bad the situation seems to be and this is what allows healing to commence.

Contrary to popular belief, no one has the power over the outcome of your life, except you – not by doing anything, as we commonly believe, but by the lens that we hold up to the world. We can either look through the eyes of FEAR or through the eyes of LOVE.

But, don’t take my word for it – find out for yourself.  I’d be interested to hear how you get on: Drop me a line at meikelawrence@hotmail.co.uk

 

 

Coming to the rescue with Homeopathy

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Many people become converts to homeopathy when they experience how fast and effective homeopathy can act in first-aid situations. After all, the ‘proof of the pudding is in the eating’.This article is not intended to negate medical or paramedical help, but can show how having a few key remedies to hand can sometimes make a huge difference in an acute health situation – in some cases life-saving.

This information can be very empowering for a non-medical person whether you are a parent, pet owner, in potentially dangerous situations (including driving a car) or you are abroad. Inexpensive homeopathic remedies could turn a fraught situation into a manageable one.

My proviso is that if the symptoms persist or recur, then professional help could be needed. A  homeopath will individualise the remedy for the patient, according to the whole picture mind/body/spirit, in order to resolve the symptom’s maintaining causes. See “There is no such thing as a Chronic Condition”.

Here are some commonly needed a remedies, with the types of situations where they would be useful.

Dosage: My advice is to take one or two tablets, but don’t continue as the remedy acts as a catalyst to stimulate the body’s healing action. If the remedy is therefore not the correct match, it could effect the actual symptoms of the remedy.

  • Aconite: is a good remedy when chills, fevers, coughs, croup etc. come with a rapid onset. Also a great remedy for mental/emotional fright or shock after bad news, or an accident.
  • Apis: Can be used for various types of oedemous swelling and inflammation caused by animal or insect bites and stings.
  • Arnica: It is basically for any physical shock or trauma. Give first in any accident or injury, for bruises, bumps and bangs. Use in ointment where the skin is unbroken, if broken use Calendula or Hypercal. Never to be used on open wounds. Also works well for nosebleed. Arnica promotes rapid healing of damaged tissues; helps control bleeding and reduce pain. It can be taken before and after dental extractions and any other surgery. It has anti-thrombotic properties and is very good for rehabilitation after strokes and DVT (Deep Vein Thrombosis).

       My Grandfather, after suffering a mini-stroke had become very withdrawn. After a single dose of Arnica, said he felt like his old self within a day.

  • Arsenicum: One of the leading remedies for diarrhea, especially from food poisoning and flu. It is a perfect remedy to relieve “upset tummy” from unfamiliar foods.
  • Belladonna: Good for acute fevers and sunstroke. Much heat, redness and burning usually with dilated pupils. Symptoms appear suddenly.

An acquaintance of mine once suddenly developed anaphylactic shock after eating contaminated food in India. Her symptoms which included sudden swelling of the throat were very frightening. Luckily there was a homeopath in the restaurant and managed to administer belladonna, which quickly acted within minutes

  • Calcarea Carb.: for slow difficult teething in children.
  • Carbo Veg.: is a No. 1 Remedy for resuscitation. It is also called the “Homeopathic corpse reviver”. This remedy has saved many lives. Symptoms at their most extreme are complete state of collapse due to oxygen starvation. Body is cold, pale or blue.
  • Calendula: It is nature’s own natural antibiotic and also stops bleeding very well. Use in an ointment form for open wounds, cuts, sores, burns, and similar injuries. Helps relieve infection.
  • Cantharis: For burns, particularly ones that blister.
  • Chamomila: A favorite child’s remedy particularly for ear ache and teething.
  • China: for dehydration. Complaints often arise after loss of fluids / severe dehydration (e.g. after fever or diarrhea).
  • Cocculus: For sea sickness and travel sickness.
  • Colocynth: For colic, tummy aches, diarrhea.
  • Hepar Sulphuricum: For sore throats, or loss of voice.
  • Hypericum: Have great anti-tetanus properties. For injuries to parts with high nerve fibres such as the mouth, tongue, fingers, etc. Great for the “caught the finger in the car door” or any other “crush” injuries. For paper cuts, it closes them up immediately.
  • Ignatia: It is one of the most useful remedies for “emotional first aid”, and works wonders for any emotional upsets, shocks, and traumas.
  • Ipecac: For nausea and vomiting.
  • Kali Bichromicum: Excellent remedy for colds and sinusitis.
  • Ledum: is a very good remedy for puncture wounds and black eyes. It also can be used to treat deep wounds and bites from both animals and insects. This remedy also has anti-tetanus properties.
  • Magnesium Phos: Known as the Homoeopathic aspirin. Very effective If crushed in warm water and sipped. Is useful for neuralgia of the face, cramping or shooting pains, relieves headaches, toothaches, earaches and especially menstrual pain.
  • Nux Vomica: For indigestion, nausea, vomiting, and hangover headaches. It is a major remedy for first aid situations, especially those affecting the digestive system. Can also be taken for travel sickness.
  • Silicea: is a very good remedy for forcing foreign bodies like splinters, thorns, glass, etc., out of the body. Do not use if you have anything artificial in your body like a new hip joint, pace maker, grommets, implants, metal pins, etc. as it may cause rejection.

Many people find that pre-packed remedy kits invaluable addition to their bathroom cabinet or first-aid boxes. I usually recommend Helios Pharmacy, and here is a link to purchase their kits:

Helios Pharmacy First-Aid Kits

Please feel free to circulate this information to friends and family, it may make all the difference..

 

Being the Best Version of Yourself

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Do you ever get the feeling that there is more that you could be or do, but that you somehow cannot make this happen in your life? When this feeling becomes chronic, we feel deadened, uninspired, frustrated and maybe even depressed and dis-empowered.

In my work with clients, using the Mace Energy Method, that supports the homeopathic treatment, I see this as a cue for them to dismantle the blocks that stop them from being themselves: and that is sub-consciously holding on to old beliefs and roles, that you may have adopted in the past for security, but are not in line with what you really want to experience now. The reason they remain in place is because we are somehow fearful of what will become of us. On closer examination, however, we realise that these fears are not only unfounded but are blocking us from bigger and better experiences!

I found new teen-flick Divergent that I saw with my 17-year-old daughter an inspiring example. An every day story of a dystopian world where evil adults corrupt innocent teenagers, that go through a right of passage. The message of the film goes deeper and it reflected how we get stuck in roles that no longer serve us or communities. We end up playing the small, safe, game, instead of being the best version of ourselves, that will ultimately benefit you and your community to a much greater level.

To detail: the story of a post-apocalyptic community tried to created social functionality and harmony by creating 5 possible roles that could be played in the community – which included helpers, growers, law makers, scientist and protectors, that the coming of age teenagers had to opt into. Hallucinogenic induced psychometric tests that accessed their subconscious would reveal which roles best suited them. They then, however, discovered that some individuals realised that their induced hallucinatory state, designed to provoke fear so that they would act in an role-appropriate way, was not real. In doing so they found easier ways of solving the problems presented to them. They were aware enough to see beyond the illusion. These individuals were called divergent, and if found out would be eliminated from the society, as they were deemed dangerous to the system. – they were not responding to the fear triggers and could therefore not be conditioned or programmed through fear. As Robert Holden of The Happiness Project says, FEAR is an acronym for Fantasy Experienced As if Real.

The story goes on to show how two undetected divergents manage to save the community. It had become corrupted by a small number of people seeking power, through programming by drugging the law enforcers. The tyrannical individuals believed that man must override his nature in favour of the role that he plays, ie the head must rule the heart. The divergents, however, could not be programmed to carry out the ensuing mass-genocide that was advocated to ‘keep the peace’ (Sounds familiar?).  They could therefore identify and deal with the tyranny and corruption, thus saving the community.

So here is the paradox – do we sacrifice ourselves to our given roles and respond to triggers that induce fear, or do we look beyond the fear and engage in our true passions and individuality? What is the opposite of fear? It is Love. So first step towards achieving this is to make your decisions based on what you love (what feels good) or and not what you fear. (See ‘Let your Heart be Your GPS’). The passion that ensues will always show you the way to solve your problems. This way we become the best versions of ourselves that gives everyone, including yourself, better rewards and fulfillment.

Here is a simple exercise that I discovered that will help to uncover The REAL YOU that is waiting to emerge, but is as yet blocked:

Write down:

1. A real or fictional character that you admire – list their qualities.

2 A type of person you tend to envy: what qualities do they have that you don’t? What do they get that you would love to have.

The first list show the qualities that you currently value and benefit from yourself. The second list shows you WHO YOU WANT TO BE – this is your POTENTIAL within your particular blueprint that is currently blocked by conditioning. As a homeopath, I find this exercise useful information to help me prescribe a remedy specific to you.

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