How to achieve a more balanced life – Take the Quiz

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I  clarify and map out  my client’s PATH TO WELLNESS through a four elements system.

The key to good health and wellbeing is how effective our life-force can flow through our bio-energetic systems. That is determined by how balanced our systems are functioning. A simple way to evaluate what is happening we can categorise how we are currently functioning and then correct any imbalances.

Each of the four elements embody different qualities and they display the four fundamental ways in which your life-force can express itself through you.

Our individual natural tendencies predominate in one of the four elements. But when they become too imbalanced, then dis-ease will result, because it inhibits the full expression of our life-force through our bio-energetic systems.

This quiz will help you understand your natural elemental expression state and what to do to get yourself in balance, taking you on the road to better health and well-being.

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QUESTIONS

There are four sections – each with 7 questions. Add up the number of ‘yes’ answers you give for each one. The section with the most yes will give you your element below in the Answers.

Section 1:

Do you normally feel sensitive to other people’s feelings?

Do you enjoy the arts, writing, music to relax?

Do you worry that you are not attractive enough?

Do you find it difficult to say no, because you’d feel guilty?

Do you tend to feel sad when upset?

Do you find it difficult to throw old things away?

Section 2:

Are you goal orientated or competitive by nature?

Your predominating negative feeling is irritation, frustration or anger?

Do you tend to become impatient if things don’t get done?

Do you prioritise planning for the future?

Are your gut instincts good?

Do you enjoy risk taking, in business or socially?

Do you get bored easily?

Section 3

Are you a natural day dreamer?

Would you say you’re good at being objective and detached?

Do you have a perfectionist streak?

Do you find you have lot of good ideas but don’t always follow them through?

Do you find that your sense of humour breaks down social barriers?

Do like to find better ways of doing things?

Do you like to share your wealth of information with others?

Section 4

Are you methodical and measured in the way that you do things?

Do you tend to feel anxious in new or unfamiliar places or people?

Do you feel most comfortable in homely and familiar surroundings?

Do you have a gift to create beautiful things – gardening, interior design, packaging, architecture, etc.

Are you even-tempered, but when pushed, stubborn?

Do you tend to enjoy activities and food that feed the senses?

Do you prioritise planning your material and financial security?

ANSWERS

Pick the section the you answered the most yeses to :

Section 1  – your main expression is WATER.

The WATER element represents our emotions driven by our sub-conscious. It is the yielding or feminine aspect of ourselves.

The qualities are expressed through nurturing, visual creativity such as art and dreaming, empathy, loving, giving, psychic abilities.

If WATER predominates too much resulting diseases could include:

Psychologically the person feels overwhelmed, resentful, passive-aggressive, grief-stricken emotionally and mood swings.

Physical symptoms  circulation problems, chest and throat complaints, over-production of mucous, swelling of glands and hormonal imbalances.

CURE: If you are a WATER type but need to rebalance, adopt more FIRE qualities, examples:

  • politely say no, when it doesn’t feel right.
  • connect and serve your deepest and most burning passions and desires to create the life that you want.
  • protect your feelings and stop dancing to other peoples tune, if it makes you feel bad.

Section 2 – your main expression is the FIRE element.

FIRE represents our instincts, run by our super consciousness. It is the inner drive to achieve masculine aspect of ourselves.

The qualities of FIRE are expressed through actions, goal orientation, self-mastery, leadership and protection.

If FIRE is overbalanced, diseases could include:

Psychologically  too aggressive, intolerant, unfeeling, narcissistic, addicted to adrenaline and gambling and unreasonable risk taker.

Physically heart pathology, auto-immune disease, high blood pressure.

CURE: If you are a FIRE type but need to rebalance, adopt more WATER qualities, for example:

  • Try and put yourself more in other people shoes, see it from their point of view, that way you get less frustrated if they’re not doing what you think is right.
  • Tell an important person in your life how much you love and appreciate them.
  • Generally take an attitude of gratitude to even the smallest things in your life.

Section 3 – Your main expression is the AIR element.

AIR represents our thinking function. It is the inner parent, ‘one that knows’ conscious aspect of ourselves.

The qualities of  air is freedom, joy, new ideas, The Idealist, intuition or inner knowing, consciousness, Laws and Principles, adaptability and problem solver.

If AIR is overbalanced, diseases could include:

Psychologically ungrounded, perfectionist, lack of boundaries, unrealistic and detached, feeling more ‘special’ or different to others.

Physically digestive problems (due to mental over processing), allergies, attention deficit, dryness of skin hair nails, persistent headaches.

CURE: If you are an AIR type but need to rebalance, adopt more EARTH qualities.

  • Give your brain a holiday and just be present in your body, feel the sensations and find a still-point within.
  • Give up on trying to find out and see the your current situations is giving you all the pointers that you need operating on a need to know basis.
  • spend time in nature and walk bare foot outside.

Section 4. Your main expression is the EARTH element.

EARTH represent our bodies and  physical sensory function. It is the inner child, unconscious innocent aspect of ourselves.

The qualities of the EARTH element is stillness, security, innocence, rest, beauty, and nurturing.

If EARTH is overbalanced diseases could include:

Psychologically  insecure, anxious, feel victimised, too passive, averse to new experiences, addiction to overconsumption eg shopping, slowness in development and learning.

Physically overweight, prone to parasites and bacterial and viral infections, addictions to physical substance eg food, drugs.

CURE: If you are an EARTH type but need to rebalance, adopt more AIR qualities.

  • Spend time imagining how you would like to change aspects of your life that are not working for you.
  • Entertain yourself with humour and fantasy, allow it to bring a lightness to your being.
  • if you feel stuck in a frustrating situation, learn to love what you have and invent new ways of fulfilling your needs.
  • Space clear your home or office, letting go of anything that is NOT useful to you.

 

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In my  work I have categorised the homeopathic remedies into the 4 elements:

Air is  represented by gases and metals, Earth represented by poisons, gemstones, radiation and mineral, Water by plants and waters, Fire by animals, acids and animal products.

The remedies are prescribed to take away the resistance, held in our nervous system, to the natural flow of our life-force, so that your balance can be restored.

If your would like to work with me, in person or via skype, contact me at http://www.HomeopathyForVitality.co.uk

 

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Where to find the solution to your health problems

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Many people who have chronic health conditions have spent time and money looking everywhere for the elusive right diet, right pill, regime, right exercise which can help for a while, but…

to find a permanent source of well-being, you have to look in the least expected place:

YOU are the source of your own HEALING POWERS, in the same way,

YOU are the source of your own HAPPINESS

YOU are the source of your own SECURITY

YOU are the source of your own CREATIVITY and therefore ABUNDANCE

YOU are the source of your AUTHORITY and VALIDATION

YOU are the source of  LOVE and COMPASSION for yourself.

YOU are the source of your own WISDOM and INTELLIGENCE

Because YOU are the source of your own vital energy, it is your life force.

This is really good news, because your fundamental well-being is really not dependant on external factors after all and you realise that you can be really well, happy and secure  regardless of your external circumstances and what is available to you.

The ONLY question remains is: what is disconnecting you from your own source of energy and thereby transforming your experience? What are you inadvertently doing that is taking you away from what will make you WHOLE and COMPLETE?

Homeopathy understands this mechanism, and so it’s only purpose, in times when the client is chronically unwell, is to endeavour to re-connect you with you own innate healing powers. We do this by working out how the person is inadvertently disconnecting themselves usually due to the conditioning, life situations and genetic makeup. We then find a remedy that matches this patterning or tendency in order heal it and thereby enabling the reconnection with your Vital Energy to occur. The net result is not only the physical problems healing, but that you generally feel better in yourself.

Here are some typical blocks to self-connection:

When you feel emotional or physically bad, what thoughts do you have?

What are you saying to yourself? Are you criticising the way you are? Judgement is a form of self-rejection, which disconnects you with yourself.

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What do you think needs doing that is coming ahead of your current needs and desires? When we put goals before ourselves, we disconnect from ourselves.

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What trouble are other people causing for you? This is a sign that you’ve inadvertently given others authority over you. Be your own point of reference and authority and thereby you reconnect with yourself.

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What do you believe you haven’t got to be ok? We can compromise ourselves in the pursuit of things we think we lack, such as money, friendship, love.

When we start to become aware of how we are compromising ourselves, due to the belief that the outside world is more important than we are, we have a choice:

“Do I want to play the victim or do I want my power back?”

If you want your power – which is your life force – back then YOU have to the most important thing in your life. In order to do this we have to listen inwards not outwards as our first priority.

CLUES that will let you know whether you are connecting with yourself and thereby your life-force:

When you are thinking or doing something that makes your heart sink –  this is your natural alarm signal that you are disconnecting from your life force – your body always tells the truth.

When you are connected, you feel either passionate, ‘in the moment’, excited, interested, loving, peaceful – these are the results and not cause of being connected to your life force – it is therefore your natural state.

How it works in practice:

A great example of this, with a timely reminder that Apple was recently proclaimed the most profitable company in the world due to its most desirable products. The late founder and visionary behind Apple, Steve Jobs, who was known for his counter-culture background  interestingly spent a year in India in his youth. India is the mecca for spiritual seekers, whereby it is encouraged to look within in mediation, and notice dispassionately what our thoughts are up to and what we would normally be compelled to act upon. Once these thoughts (which are only thoughts, with no actual substance) are seen through, our ‘true nature’ which precedes those thoughts is seen. And that is the immense power, wisdom and love that we really ‘are’. So, Steve Jobs is one of many examples of how each of us could see beyond current constrained thinking, by thus tapping into his own creativity – which is one of the many functions of our vital energy which develops bigger and better ideas.

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If you would like a consultation with me, either on Skype or in person in Surrey, UK, please contact me at meikelawrence@hotmail.co.uk, or visit my website at http://www.HomeopathyForVitality.co.uk

Meike Lawrence

Psychological Tips and Guidelines to help remedy hair thinning or Alopecia

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Hair thinning and alopecia can be very stressful for the sufferer as it can make them feel knock their self-confidence and make them feel very insecure. Unfortunately, whilst the sufferer is struggling with this anxiety, this, as a form of stress perpetuates the hair loss physically as it is an auto-immune condition. This means that the immune system is activated (because stress hormones messages are telling it that there is danger) and working against the body. This in effect puts you in a ‘double-bind’.

I take a holistic approach to all health problems, whereby the mind and body are two sides of the same coin. So my approach is to reveal what is behind the physical symptoms and how to resolve the problem from that underlying state.

As I mentioned in my previous article on Alopecia, issues about hair loss revolve around the ego – your personal identity – who you are in the world. Hair is your crowning glory and in society it is used as an enhancement to our identity – in the film The Iron Lady part of Margret Thatcher’s image revamp was to get rid of the hat, bouffant the hair to “make it look important” which was one of the best ways of getting the ‘unheard’ achieved – getting the first woman prime minister elected.

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The issues and solutions I outline below are based on my own personal as well as professional experience of how this problem comes about and how to rectify the mind-set.

Paradoxically, I have a daughter, now grown up, who is a great role-model for anyone with this issue. She is a ‘typical Leo’, with a long mane of blond hair and her constitutional remedy is Aurum (gold), whose personality type wants to shine. When out of balance, can fly off the handle at the slightest contradiction because they take things personally (their egos get bruised), but when in balance enjoy bringing out the best in themselves, so that they can shine. Although quiet she makes an entrance when entering a room. As a school-child and the youngest in the class, she would give withering looks to anybody who deigned to make a negative comment about her. I imagined potential bullies scuttle off with a whimper as a result. (I did offer hers services to some of her less confident friends to practice That Look). She has always kept her counsel when it comes to her own life decisions, but she definitely knows what she wants and focusses in getting just that. Outside that scope she endeavours to have fun and relax according to her mood and inclination.

So why would anyone want to give up their own personal identity? Surely, life must be more fun and you get more what you want in life if you orientate your life according to who and what you are. In other words, your life revolves around you. Just like the aurum character, you are the shining sun around which the planets in your life revolve around -how great is that?
Like all ailments, I believe the somewhere along the line has been a disconnection from an aspect of yourself, which in this case I believe to be the insecure, vulnerable part of yourself. You therefore internalise your insecurity. This, as Carl Jung, puts it becomes your shadow side, which means that you no longer associate with that state in yourself and just think the “everyone else has that problem, not you” – this is projection. I’ll explain why:

In my observations, many hair loss sufferers have been in situations in the past whereby they had to forgo receiving security whilst still feeling vulnerable on their own. If there were problems of parents not always being emotionally there for the child  or being taken to various relative to be looked after, moving house frequently, parents divorcing, after could be one of many examples of how this would come about. In essence the child, had to create a survival strategy, which goes along the lines of: “Better not rock the boat, as things seem to be chaotic at the moment and just pretend that I don’t need that security I will find another way of not feeling vulnerable. Instead, I will have to forgoe my own identity, which reflects my own preferences, desires and feelings and instead, I will define myself according to other peoples desires, requirements and needs.” You then have to keep you radars out to read what is required of you in order to have a role or identity in life.

What then happens is the the need for security is hidden from view (as I mentioned re the shadow), for both the sufferer and the people around. So the sufferer then sends off the wrong messages, inadvertently, to say they are alright and don’t need anything. So like any trauma, once the feeling is buried, which is insecurity and vulnerability, it is no longer felt, so that the sufferer can manage surviving the situation. Like all buried feelings, however, at some point, when the coast is clear, the child has grown up, those feelings can and have to come out, to be reintegrated consciously into your psyche. Why? Because you have set yourself up to be everything other than being vulnerable as it had been deemed an undesirable state, according to the survival strategy. Where, however would we be if we didn’t allow ourselves to be vulnerable? We wouldn’t experience unconditional love and caring from other people as we’ve set ourselves up to always be The Strong One.

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Think of a small baby – its vulnerability illicits love and attention, without any need for a return from those around, because of its helplessness. This is what your spirit wants to experience for time to time, to feel fully alive. This is why you need to reintegrate your vulnerable side.

What came first, the chicken or the egg?

People with hair loss usually feel very anxious about it. But they think its the hair loss is the cause of the anxiety. This is because the brain is always attributing a cause when something does not feel right. What is really happening is that the anxious feeling is the buried vulnerable state that is already within the person, waiting to come out (that shadow I mentioned). But because we deem the problem to be external, we cannot fully experience unreservedly and thereby integrate the vulnerable state, thus healing ourselves. The paradox is that we are trying to fix the external problem, which perpetuates rather than heals the problem.

As a homeopath, I prescribe remedies that match the feelings of loss of identity, self-sacrifice, internalised insecurity and anxiety about feeling vulnerable, which enables the reintegration of our vulnerable side and thereby stopping the hair loss. It is also possible to help this resolution by trying the following exercise:

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You can now create your own security, become your own sanctuary, to feel completely safe and whole. Make yourself as comfortable as possible and in your mind, visualise the perfect safe space imagining all the things that would make you feel cosseted and look-after. Whilst you are feeling anxious and stressed out welcome yourself into that space and allow yourself to fully feel those feelings, noticing the sensations in your body, the tenseness in your head and all the thoughts that keep popping in your mind. Because you are now looking after yourself, you can now fall into those feelings and sensations and just notice them with curiosity, compassion with no need to work it out or fix it. Just stick with it and you will notice after a while that the feelings start to ease.

This is you allowing yourself to go back to your authentic vulnerable self, and by doing that, you are healing the original problem. Keep doing this every time the anxiety arises and notice that each further episode should decrease in time.  

  Know who you want to be, and what you want out of life – then GO FOR IT.

I have listed further pointers for a for you to re-orientate yourself to fully embracing your own identity. Some may be more relevant than others, just work with the ones that you recognise in yourself.

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Don’t try and keep the peace.

If everyone and every thing is kicking off – don’t try to smooth things over by pacifying them and telling them what they want to here. Instead, connect with your feelings – which indicate your truth and state how you feel about things and what you would like to happen in the situation. Instead, negotiate and communicate through assertiveness – see Whose running Your Life?

Get out of the servitude role 

this is a subtle one. It is always commendable and rewarding to be in a role serving other’s needs, but it’s only if you want to do it for your own pleasure, excitement and curiosity. Don’t let your clients dictate to your the terms and conditions that you operate under otherwise you put your power into the hands of others.

You’re not here to save the world,

be a lightworker or martyr yourself in any other way – you are here to be YOU – and enjoy that experience wholly! It’s no one’s job is to have overall responsibility for things or people – We are here to inspire and admire ourselves and others – that’s how the world becomes a better place!

Be proud of all your achievements and abilities

we tend to overlook the obvious when we’re too busy critising ourselves. Sit on your laurels and preen yourself!

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Be your own authority

you know your own goals, values and interests – this is no-one else’s business, so if anyone tries to tell you – go into collaboration with them (see whose running your life), but if you rebuff or yield to them (two opposite movements) then your giving them authority over you – remember, whatever you resist, persists, so even when you think you are fixing the authority issue by always railing on about that bully in your life, that still keeps you in  the victim role and thereby giving them power over you.

Never be a sanitised version of yourself.

When we look around and try and fit into the prevailing culture, we want to be accepted not rejected. We therefore have a tendency to modify ourselves to fit it – this modification however is based on a law outside yourself and if everyone behaves in the same way we would be clones, making the world a dull/dead place (Have you ever seen the Stepford Wives?)

 Develop your passions and interests

you’re here to enjoy your life (no one else’s). Use whatever’s happening around you at the moment to be your inspiration – choose what you really like, investigate new ideas that catch your eye and immerse and absorb yourself in those activities, doing it for the sheer pleasure alone.

I treated a young father with premature hair loss. He was immensely proud of his young children and derived a lot of pleasure from just observing them. He did, however always feel judged and blocked by his family, when he wanted to go off for a while and pursue some of his own interests. This, again is martyring yourself to the cause.

Fully embody your personality

Yes, you are meant to be that dippy, quirky, funny, unique character. When others are in a bad mood they may complain about it – but that’s their problem and you probably don’t want to be friends with them anyway – there is someone out they who will love you for who you are – and those are the people you are meant to hang out with – But how will they find you if you hide your light under a bushel?

Know that there is a place on earth for you here.

For many of us, the world somehow feels too harsh and wrong at times. It affects our delicate sensibilities and when feeling traumatised, one could start to wonder if there was some kind of mistake and you just have to sit it out until the ‘next life’? With the right vision, when you are in the centre of your own Youniverse (like the word play?) you realise that this life gives you the challenges and opportunities to play things out and experience many things that ultimately help you to get to know yourself better. This is the connection you can reach with yourself – then you realise that you are your own home.

Don’t consult others about your life-choices.

Do you think that your friends and family will approve of your choices from where they are sitting? No, they have their own values, taste and experiences and will only validate your choices if it fits in with their plan. All you need to do is inform them when you are ready to carry out your plans. Disapproval will only be ‘their problem’, not yours. In the extreme case, you may start to know who your real friends are.

Tell other people what they could do to make you happy

You may be pleasantly surprised that your nearest and dearest are waiting to hear how they can make you happy. In our society, things are too skewed towards women being the givers (thus breeding resentment) and men the takers, making them confused and clueless on how they can make their wives happy – which would give them a huge amount of pride and satisfaction.

I had a case of a young mother, who had alopecia, with sleepless babies, whose husband would always go off the week-ends with his mates, leaving her to tend to the family 24/7. Due to her conditioning she found it difficult to issue clear instructions to her partner on what she needed from him. The remedy I gave her helped her to see the value of doing this and she no longer had to suffer in silence.

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Don’t try to be perfect

Fastidiousness is a common trait  in alopecia sufferers. Perfection is an abstract concept rooted in fantasy and has nothing to do with reality. Aim for authentic instead. Let the ancient art of Japanese Wabi-Sabi inspire you whereby imperfections are the feature that is highlighted as the beauty of the piece. Your imperfections are usually your greatest assets which will make you more relatable and attractive to others. That’s how you gain deeper connection and intimacy with others, as well as yourself – which, incidentally is the most important relationship in your life.

Don’t put other people’s welfare before your own.

How can you give the best of yourself to others when you have not ministered to your own needs first? This is a classic problem for many care givers – personal and professional, leading to at best resentment at worst nervous break downs. It never pays, not matter how valid some one else’s need is. Once you have put yourself in the right place, then you are ready to give – which will be of far greater value.

Don’t live through other people’s lives.

It’s very easy to trade our own dreams in for someone else’s. Grown up children and their parents are a classic example. One of the mothers at our school told her husband that she too felt inspired to go on a gap year, now that the kids were planning world tours before university. That’s the way to go!

Always consult with your feelings first

This is checking in with what’s right for you this is your guideline – see Let your heart be your GPS – minister to your needs and wishes – You are your own priority (afterall, no one else will prioritise you, no matter how nice you are to them).

Please forward this article to anyone you think would benefit from the information.

If you would like a consultation with me either in person or via Skype, then please contact me at

meikelawrence@hotmail.co.uk

or visit my Website WWW.HomeopathyForVitality.co.uk

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Let your heart be your GPS

I heard a joke the other day, recommending a new kind of SatNav for the elderly: To tell them how to get there and why they went there in the first place! I asked myself, “Do we really need to know why we want to get somewhere? – maybe we can only know once we are there”.

To explain: does you heart sink when you have do something you don’t want to? Kinesiologists have quantified this phenomenon whereby harmful or negative things and thoughts can deplete the electromagnetic sphere which we embody – homeopaths call it the vital force. In other words, we deplete our life force every time we’re focusing on something that doesn’t make us happy.

How many times a day do you tell yourself that you ought to do something? Maybe this is your conditioning that is speaking and not the real you. Maybe you don’t actually need to do it to be happy. To test this out for yourself, spend a day by asking yourself “What do I really feel like doing?” and do that instead. Allow activities that attract you naturally to become the centre of your life. See how the day pans out and evaluate whether you feel more energised and have been more productive. You may surprised! When we live through our heart and not exclusively our head, we tend to experience more vitality. We all know that when you do what you love, we become energised, and it is irrelevant how much energy you put into it. And when we have more vitality, we become healthier.

One last thought: Life is not about arriving safely to your death-bed